Now you may be thinking that 30 is actually a better time to settle down than 20, or even 25, and I agree with you.
But grabbing whoever you're living with or sleeping with when everyone on Facebook starts walking down the aisle is not progress.
The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one,
and that means being as intentional with love as you are with work.
Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what you want
rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you.
So what happened to Emma? Well, we went through that address book,
and she found an old roommate's cousin who worked at an art museum in another state.
That weak tie helped her get a job there.
That job offer gave her the reason to leave that live-in boyfriend.
Now, five years later, she's a special events planner for museums.
She's married to a man she mindfully chose.
She loves her new career, she loves her new family,
and she sent me a card that said, "Now the emergency contact blanks don't seem big enough."